Date Night: Dream Together

Sam and I have been married for almost nine years. It's really crazy to think that we've been a couple for a decade now. Remember when six months with a boyfriend was a long time? I can honestly say we are not who we married. We have both grown up so much since we tied the knot on that amazing night in Atlanta so many moons ago. I'm excited to talk about marriage on the blog. I obviously want to keep a lot of things private but I also want to inspire myself to come up with creative ways for Sam and I to spend our wednesday nights together (our self-proclaimed date night).

Sometimes I feel like Sam and I get so caught up in our own work and the babies that we don't talk about much else. Every night goes a little something like this... Sam gets home, I've either fed the girls or I'm feeding them. He starts on dinner for us while I do bedtime. We eat, usually in front of the TV and then Sam heads upstairs to work and I finish up downstairs. Where's the conversation? It ain't happening. Part of my working from home means sacrificing some personal time at night because often I can't get things done during the day. One of my goals this year is to wake up early to work (that's when I'm the most productive) and to take four hours on saturdays to be out of the house (a true luxury!). I think that will make me feel more sane and free up some week nights.

For the first "date night" idea I wanted to share something that we love to do and don't do often: Dream together. Sam and I are both goal oriented and it's so fun to cast a vision together for what we want for our family, each other, and ourselves.

Set it up:

Light a candle - my sweet boss gifted me with this "Cedar" candle and I love it.
Play some music - I am loving Josh Garrels Love & War & the Sea in Between.
Pour some wine (or other festive drink - something out of the ordinary) - my go-to vino.

Think & talk about:

1. Planning a vacation, even a weekend one. Sam and I didn't do this for years but I think it's crucial to get away, bonus points if it's by yourself (haven't done this since Phoebe was born and we need to).
2. Big ideas. What do you really want for your family in the next five years? What's a career dream goal? Talk about how to support each other to get there.
3. What's missing? Is there something that you wish you could do together more?
4. We like to talk about financial goals as well, where we want to give, what we want to do to the house, etc. Sometimes it's superficial, other times meaningful. Keeps us on track.

Do you dream together with you man? I'd love to start a conversation about conversing in general!

photo by Jessica Mahady

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